Deborah Gray

Nurturing Attachments

Deborah Gray, is the founder of Nurturing Attachments. She is a clinical social worker specializing in the areas of attachment, grief, and trauma. She has spent 20 years counseling children and families, specializing in children who were adopted. Her private practice philosophy is one of empowering parents with information and techniques so that their skills and styles are used in meeting the needs of their children. Her passion is to help children and their families to develop close, satisfying relationships.

Deborah is a popular presenter due to her practical approaches of promoting attachment, shaping behavior, and working through trauma and grief. She teaches in the Cascadia Resources/Northwest Adoption Resource and Portland State Post-Graduate Programs in Adoption Counseling.

She has keynoted national conferences including ATTACh, Joint Council of International Children’s Services, American Association of Adoption Attorneys, Midwest Adoption Conference and Families for Russian and Ukrainian Adoption.

Deborah received her graduate degrees from Syracuse University in 1981. She is a licensed social worker and licensed mental health counselor in the State of Washington. She has also been a therapeutic foster parent.

Deborah Gray is the author of numerous articles and the books Attaching with Love, Hugs and Play, 2014, Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today’s Parents, 2012 (reprint) and Nurturing Adoptions: Creating Resilience after Neglect and Trauma, 2012 (reprint), published by Jessica Kingsley Publishing.

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